Ask and Listen

I don't know about you, but when I think of conflict it makes me want to run away from it. I like to keep the peace and not cause contention. Some may call me a pushover or that people walk all over me but I just don't handle conflict or contention very well. It makes me feel uncomfortable.  

Today in class we were discussing conflict. My teacher said that just because there is conflict doesn't mean it has to be an argument. As we discussed conflict and power he brought to the classes’ attention that conflict is the opportunities for some things. At first I had a hard time coming up with anything from a conflict that would be beneficial for anyone. 

Some of the benefits of conflict is that it gives both people the opportunity to see from different perspectives and gain more information regarding the matter. If conflict is handled lovingly it can teach both people to be more humble and teachable. Conflict can bring your trust and confidence in each other to a greater level. It can also bring you together and become an intimate experience while discussing important things that have meaning. 

At least for me when there are issues I am really good at becoming silent and keeping my opinions to myself...until I've had enough then I explode in frustration. I found this quote that is really good and I find value in it.

"The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn't being said. The art of reading between the lines is a lifelong quest of the wise." Shannon L. Alder

There are many ways to communicate and it’s not only through words. Whether we like it or not we are always communicating sometimes more when we aren't using our words. My teacher showed us this:

Words 14%

Tone 35%

Non-verbal 51%

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100%

Communicating can help avoid some conflict as we are loving and kind to those around us. We not only need to communicate with out spouse and family but also and specifically Heavenly Father. He needs to be just as much involved in our lives as our spouse is. We not only need to ask, but also listen to both God and those around us.